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Hendrik not only engages in the delights of not texting one-night-stands and ditching women who don’t immediately agree to have sex with him, but also loves playing women off each other by insulting others to manipulate them into feeling special.
In short, he is a total asshole who plays off the insecurity of the numbers games to solely satiate his sexual desires.
And it’s not a matter of being too fat or too loud, too timid or too aggressive, too slutty or too frigid.
It’s that There Aren’t Enough of Him.”In his book, Birger eloquently explains, in terms that even the non-statistically-literate can comprehend, that the gender ratios of college graduating classes in the past few decades reveal that there really aren’t enough single guys. The current college class breakdown of women to men is , which means that there will be about one-third more women than men with college degrees when graduation arrives.
If we assume these women will want to marry college-educated men—a desire that Birger convincingly argues should and will change—there’s simply not enough men to make all those trips down the aisle a reality.
In seven of the couples, the woman pursued the men.“It’s decisive women who, maybe, odds-wise are more likely to get the guy,” Birger tells me. They would rather not take their chance than put themselves out there and get rejected.”There were moments when Date-Onomics is initially disheartening—especially if you’re a 25-year-old woman who takes comfort fantasizing the perfect guy is out there and you just haven’t found him yet.“For a college-educated woman who puts an extremely high-priority on getting married to a college-educated man, she may be better off strategically—though not necessarily romantically—getting married young to Mr. But, as occurred so many times reading Date-Onomics, I ultimately felt liberated, fear replaced by the realization that driving yourself crazy to find some mystical “best”—and, in turn, to attract that mystical “best”—was a waste.
It’s not a strategic problem, it’s a demographic problem.”In fact, the dating advice that is offered up in Date-Onomics runs refreshingly against the courtship narratives that are most restrictive for women.
For example, even in 2015, women are still often expected to “play hard to get” and “let men take the lead.” Women who don’t demurely wait to be fawned over are often branded as “desperate” or “pathetic.”Birger counters these women are not, in fact, desperate.
When I speak with Birger, he assures me they weren’t all as bad as Hendriks.“I didn't get the sense they were all being Machiallevian about it,” he says.
“I think some thought that they were so special that they had just become really good catches, and that’s why they had so many options.” Yeah, right.
One woman recalls a boyfriend who felt entitled to grope her friend right in front of her because he thought he deserved a threesome.